DISQUS

Yuvi Panda · 1 year ago

*hugs*

HarlDelos · 1 year ago

The biggest problem with low-birth-weight babies is with single births. Either the baby is extremely premature (often underdeveloped lungs), or else the mother is on drugs, and the baby hasn't had proper nutrition. In the case of twins born to a healthy mother, there's a little bit of underdevelopmnent (born early, when the womb gets too crowded) but mostly, there's competition for resources (which is a quantity problem, not a quality problem.)

My first wife, born in the 1940s, was sent home at about 3 pounds. They figured she was going to die, and her Mom might as well enjoy her while she lived. These days, though, most babies that weigh 2 pounds or more manage to survive.

"Separate but equal", as the SCOTUS tells us, is inherently unequal. There's nothing that even approaches "fair" when it comes to parenting. You don't punish *both* kids when one misbehaves. You don't hug and rock *both* kids when one gets hurt or scared. You don't give *both* kids medicine when one is sick. And inevitably, you don't love the kids the same, although that seems terribly unfair. It's not the same qualitatively, and it's not the same quantitatively - but since when is love rational?

Matthew means "gift of god" and having him home with you IS a gift. Sarah means "princess" and after worrying about her like this, she'll surely be treated like one at your home. Congrats. I envy you and your wife.

Dennis Bjørn Petersen · 1 year ago

Congratulations with both of them. You are in for quite a handful ;)

I'm sure the twins will be united within a few days. Newborns have a fighter-will that most of us can envy.

When our son was born 9 months ago his heart rate went up and down and it made the doctors a bit nervous.

Today he's way ahead of many same-aged babies.

Chris Nixon · 1 year ago

That drive home must have been heart breaking. Our thoughts are with all four of you.

Louis Gray · 1 year ago

Chris, absolutely appreciate your note. To be honest, the drive home was mixed. We were glad to be leaving the hospital, and excited to have Matthew home, but leaving Sarah behind is/was very hard. It'll be an odd juggling act over the next few days until we can take her home. Then ... the fun begins.

kukoo · 1 year ago

Congratulations! Both of u take care.

Ben Borges · 1 year ago

Believe it or not, but your twins, both of them are not that separated from each other, i guess there is an invisible link from your home to the hospital..your healthy positive thoughts also can help strengthen this link :) best of luck for you all !

Barthox · 1 year ago

It must indeed have been a strange ride home.

You must be experiencing mixed feelings tending to one of the Twins and not (yet) to the second one .... but don't worry, it'll only last a few days, and what are a few days in a life?

Within a few months from now you won't think much about these few days anymore, and you'll enjoy the time spent with the two of them!

Hang on!

Mike Bosch · 1 year ago

Congratulations Louis. And try not to worry too much. I know how hard that is, though. There is nothing more difficult than seeing your kid in the hospital and not being able to do anything about it (well, at least directly). I hope she comes home soon.

Our daughter was born early as well and it was quite an interesting few days keeping her temperature regulated at first. The good news is that they grow out of it and before you know it, you won't even be able to tell they were born small.

Daryl Tay · 1 year ago

Louis, glad to hear Matthew is at home with you! I'm sure Sarah will join him very soon!

centernetworks · 1 year ago

sarah was just pissed that you gave matthew first dibs on the friendfeed account. i am sure sarah will be home soon! you are doing a great job dad!

CyndyA · 1 year ago

*hugs* I can't imagine leaving her behind, but at the same time, she's getting tons of attention, and this will help ease the transition for all of you. Some day when you are both through this rough patch, I'll tell you all about #3, who did his stint in the NICU. And then Children's. And then a procedure or 10. And a surgery. You do get to a point where you can look at them and be amazed that anyone ever thought they'd need that much care and attention.

sarahintampa · 1 year ago

My thoughts are with you guys...I know that must be so tough. I hope little Sarah is going to be OK and you will soon have her home.

Kim editor of Raising Twins · 1 year ago

Oh - it is so heartbreaking to have to leave one baby - may feel like your family is not quite complete ! But just know that she is in a safe place with around the clock attention and care and as soon as she is strong enough she will be home with you. Caring for 2 newborn babies is a lot more work than caring for one , so try to enjoy the next few days, catch up on a little sleep and get to know your son. You'll be busier than you thought possible very shortly! Thanks for the post - you brought back memories for me - take care and I hope she's home safe and sound very soon!

Jill Cordoni · 1 year ago

Congrats on the twins. I know it must be hard to leave Sarah behind for a few days, but know that she is in good hands. I know Jessica had to to do the same with Liam and he is a healthy, thriving 18 month old now. Take this chance to set up a routine so that when Sarah comes home you have things set up. Don and I are worried that our twins will come early as well, so we may be reaching out for support to you both if that is the case. Take care and know that your entire family is in our thougths and prayers. Call if you need anything, or have questions!!

Jill and Don Cordoni

Edwin Khodabakchian · 1 year ago

Louis,

It is hard to be separated. It makes you realize very early on how precious their life is. The important thing is that she is healthy and will be back home in a couple of days. Then this will just become the story of how early she showed her fighting power.

Try to get as much sleep as you can and force mummy to get as much sleep as she can!

Looking forward to seeing pictures of both of them sharing their cribs!

chris peoples · 1 year ago

congratulations and the best of luck to your family.

Eric Sausse · 1 year ago

It's only a matter of days before little Sarah joins her brother. You'll soon be all together.

Wishing the four of you the best.

ruesocial · 1 year ago

Louis your family will remain in my prayers till all are home safe.

I have a daughter that is 11 weeks old and was in Intensive care for 4 days after her birth. Prayer is powerful.

a · 1 year ago

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Helen Halstead · 1 year ago

Hi Louis,

I'm Mrs (Nick) Halstead (fav.or.it). We had a baby girl in January delivered 5 weeks early at 4lb 4oz (I had HELLP Syndrome... a bad form of pre-eclampsia so they delivered early to cure me). She dropped to 4lb but didn't need to go to the special needs ward which was good as I got worse after delivery and was hooked up to all kinds of machines. Luckily I was diagnosed quickly and treated so was turned around in 48hrs. We were allowed home after 5 days... in the UK they can send you home after a few hours! Amelia is now doing brilliantly and I'm sure Sarah will too. I bet you can't wait to get them both home. Amelia is our first and more than likely our last as there's a chance that I could be ill again.

Good luck with them both,

Helen.

Ion · 1 year ago

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